This week, we’re going to go over my process of choosing who gets on of me wedding invites and my advice for planning out who you’ll invite to your own wedding. By the end of this blog, you’ll be an expert at choosing who gets wedding invites, which is a bit more of a process than you expect it to be.
The way Tim and I started with planning who we would invite was by m
aking lists. We were very informal about this part. Basically, we thought of people and listed them. We planned ahead of time that we want no more than 50 people at the wedding. So with that limit, we made our list. Basically, we invited whoever was on that list. While this worked well for us, it might not work for you. The average amount of guests at any given wedding in the U. S. is 120. For that amount of guests, or bigger, it wouldn’t be easy to just make a list and go with it.
Here are some great tips on how to plan your wedding invites.
- The people who are paying for the wedding should all be involved in this. Have everyone write a list of guests they believe should attend. The people who end up on all lists are obvious people to invite. People who are on 2 of the lists is usually also an obvious invite. Whoever is on only 1 list–depending on how many you have left in your magic number–should be gone through one-by-one.
- Your parents/grandparents, etc. don’t get much input if they’re not paying for the wedding. Of course, listen to opinions, and take it into consideration, but ultimately the choice is yours.
- Never invite more than you can afford. Don’t ever send out an invite with the intention that the invited person will say no. If you can only afford to accommodate 50 people, you should only invite 50. Don’t invite 51.
This is one of the toughest processes you’ll have during your wedding. If you follow my tips, you’ll be fine!
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